A prenuptial agreement is an agreement between two people that deals with the financial consequences of their marriage ending.
All marrying couples have a “prenuptial agreement” – it is known as “divorce law.” However, a lot of people are unhappy with the way divorce law works, and prefer to take control of their lives, rather than leave it in the hands of the government. In these cases, it makes a lot of sense to get a customized prenup.
Getting a prenuptial agreement is particularly important in these 8 cases:
1. You are much wealthier than your partner. A prenuptial agreement can ensure that your partner is marrying you for who you are, and not for your money.
2. You earn much more than your partner. A prenuptial agreement can be used in many states to limit the amount of alimony that is payable.
3. You are remarrying. When you remarry, your legal and financial concerns are often very different than in your first marriage. You may have children from a previous marriage, support obligations, and own a home or other significant assets. A prenuptial agreement can ensure that when you pass away, your assets are distributed according to your wishes, and that neither your first family, nor your new family are cut off.
4. Your partner has a high debt load. If you are marrying someone with a significant debt load, and don’t want to be responsible for these debts if your marriage ends, then a prenuptial agreement can help ensure that this does not happen.
5. You own part of a business. Without a prenuptial agreement, when your marriage ends, your spouse could end up owning a share of your business. Your business partners may not want this to happen. A prenup can ensure that your spouse does not become an unwanted partner in your business.
6. To prevent your spouse from overturning your estate plan. A prenuptial agreement can ensure that you estate plan works, and, for instance, ensure that a specific heirloom remains in your family.
7. You are much poorer than your partner. Just as a prenuptial agreement can be used to protect a spouse who is well off, a prenup can also be used to ensure that the partner who is weaker financially is protected.
8. If you plan to quit your job to raise children. Quitting your job will negatively impact your income and your wealth. A prenuptial agreement can ensure that the financial burden of raising the children is shared fairly by both partners.
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For some people, having a pre-nuptial agreement means that you are not really optimistic about the marriage. I would say it only for one reason, to safety your family if you get bankrupt.
how soon into living together does a relationship become active ..his is hers and vice versa?
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what can be done if one party will not honor the prenuptial agreement.
One aspects of pre-nup that has always been neglected in child custody.
Pre-nup depends on two people involve in married life…it doesnt mean that you dont trust your partner, but sometimes when too much money is involve, problems come and go…..now a days, if u prefer to sign pre-nup agreement…you are just securing what you have….
prenups r gay as hell
Another thing to think about doing before getting married, or remarried, is revising any wills and trusts or creating new ones. Review beneficiary designations on 401K and insurance policy. Be sure each partner has his/her own lawyer.
If you sign a prenup what happens to anything you do together while you are married if something happens to the marriage?
9. Alll Girls are crazy and cant be trusted
Defintately get a prenup. It is a proven fact that woman are more emotionally unstable then men. You always want your assets to be protected. With the 50% divorce rate it is foolish to leave all your hard work unprotected. The courts also rule in favor of women. So get a prenup.
where can i do a prenump online or do I have to pay to do it?
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If my fiance and I both have houses. Can a prenup be written to protect one home if the other foreclosures. Also if I am debt free and he has $40000 of debt what can a prenup do to protect me from that debt. Will it seriously alter my lifestyle when we get married and can a prenup make only him responsible for it during the marriage.
Can a person who paid his spouse, while still married, be hit with an arrearage when they get divorced?
I leave us a com-in-law my partner brought the house and have a car and money safe. we live together in british columbia for 3 yrs e half in her house. I look after the kids and doctor work us much. she was tell me that my house. should I have any part in her house if we end up our relationship? thanks
if my partner who live with me for 3yrs in half end up the relationship. do you get anything in the house that she brought? I cant work because I look the kids and she make more money? I need to know if I can get anything some money from her house or half? thanks
I think prenuptial agreements are a very smart move for any couple to take. I think the govt should make in to law that every soon to be married couple should get a prenuptial agreement before there wedding day.
I feel that a marriage should not have to have a contract within a marriage. What is mine is his and what is his is mine. When people mentioned that prenup is for someone that has money, this should not be based upon money. Which this is not right, there should be trust and communication and love in a marriage, instead of worrying about money. That is the problem right now, money, that is the root of all evil. Without a contract, it is still the same problem with money, it breaks people marriages up. So, with or without a contract marriages are going bad, because of money.
pre nupials it is important to secure both couple if they have divorce..A prenuptial agreement can ensure that your partner is marrying you for who you are, and not for your money. pre-nup depends on two people involve in married life if their.
My wife and I executed a prenuptial agreement 5 years ago in California but have moved to Louisiana two years ago. One lawyer tells me I have to redo the prenup for Louisiana and the others are saying I don’t !……….It would be nice to have the truth.
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i been separated for ( 8 ) years,and i m in the process of divorce the i rely need a prenup
Hey I read here youâ€™re sharing and found it very informative. The most important thing is that prenuptial agreements are recognized in Virginia pursuant to the statutes which comprise the Premarital Agreement Act. It should be observed that although enforceable pursuant to the Premarital Agreement Act, prenuptial agreements can be, and sometimes are, invalidated by Virginia Courts.
Prenuptial agreements are good for the couple, as it provide financial assistance to both of them.
My xfiancee had multiple sclerosis..she claimed that she will never need my money and she can live independent if we breakup the marriage for any reason (I dont believe in divorce, so i dont need a prenup, but she is born and raised in Canada and she had been in several realtionships). She told me, unless i cheat on her or phsyically abuse her, she will not need any money and she agreed to put that in paper…i said , no demands..whatever you are saying…please put in a paper. She woke up the following day and said she will never give anything in writing. It was a disaster, after that i did not trust her.
2 months later, she broked the engagement and walked off. Now she is dating another rich guy…So, Please talk to your partner and try to make her understand that you will support her regardless of anything, but you would prefer a pre-nup and you can say what ever you are ready to support.
With all these crazy xgfs walking over you, i would definitely need a pre-nup before wedding. I dont want to pay for her disability and alimony , if for some reason she walks away..women are crazy.
when i was married my husband did a pinup, and i sigh whit out iknow what i sign because i was new my English was a 2en language i just find that, what can i do.
A pre-nup is a must in my opinion. Every couple should think this through in love and respect before marriage. The pre-nup would allow you to decide what your values and believes are rather than being at the whim of whatever the law when and where you live at the time your marriage gets in trouble.
Even if you start out with not much, you want to think through what happens if, for instance, one of you builds a business. You should establish your own code for fairness that reflects your values and do that from the outset.
I recently started a business and I am scared now that it will become a huge financial liability to me in the case of a possible divorce. You can never exclude divorce from your plans, I never thought it would happen to me after more than a decade I am at a near-end and that near-end is accelerated because I have to worry about losing my financial freedom to my wife. Even if you both have good morals, believe in God, don’t put your head in the sand. You should really think about your life together before you begin it.
I am not a lawyer and have many questions myself, and I know the law is very fragmented even in one country and much more when you cross national borders.
I want to clarify that again before I sign off: the lack of the pre-nup is running my marriage into the ground. No one has any benefit from this lack of a pre-nup. My wife much rather would stay married, and while I would agree to try, I am under enormous pressure to get this financial worry settled. Post-nups in my situation are almost useless because we are on the brink of divorce. The lack of a pre-nup (timely revised and ammended) is now giving my marriage the rest. It’s sad. And it’s stupid. The whole point of contracts is that you make them in good times to keep you operating in bad times.
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This is one of the most informative articles about prenuptial agreements that I have come across online. I started looking up details about prenuptial agreements about three years ago when my Australian friend who lives in Thailand decided to marry a Thai man. After doing some research with me and realizing that she had some doubts about the marriage, she decided to get a Thailand prenuptial agreement. She already had children with this man, and in the end, they did get divorced, and the prenuptial agreement turned out to be totally worth it. The article brings up some very important points about prenuptial agreements, like being careful about how children are written into the agreement and being aware of how business ownership might be affected. Itâ€™s a personal decision, but I think the pros outweigh the cons, especially if you have doubts or concerns about your assets.
Hi, I found the prenuptial agreement very interesting in terms of protecting my assests in the event of meeting my future partner but what if she won’t sign the agreement? Can this means, I’d be taking a risk in marrying this person?
After reading this articles, i have to say Prenup is Fear of your mind and not enough trust each other. mens are selfish enough women are not crazy,,
My gf of 8 months is very eager to get married. Yesterday I said I would not marry without a pre-nup. I’m very financially well off, she sleeps half the day and has a part-time job. If she doesn’t want to sign a pre-nup then I’m not interested in marrying her. It’s pretty black & white.
She says I don’t trust her by wanting a pre-nup. However I can say that by her being so averse to a pre-nup, she may have less-than-pure intentions.
Where do I get a prenup or do I have to pay for it?
Does a pre-nup help an elderly couple re: the possibility of filing for Medicaid? Protect the one who owns the home if the other goes into a nursing home and needs Medicaid?
I need a girl to marriage on contract only till the immigration process i ready to pay her on demand i rellay need it please reply
I HAVE THE ANSWER FOR EVERYONE!!
1) Lawyers give free consultations, if their services can benefit you, you will find out then for free.
2) Go get lawyers people!
Even if you are broke, go get a free consultation.. You never know- for example..
…If you are divorcing and dont have $ sometimes lawyers will still help because they know they can get you money in the divorce and they can get paid then…etc
These 8 reasons for a prenup agreement are definitely valid, and I would add that an agreement made in advance also aids in setting clear boundaries on the closing of matters if the relationship should end.
starting the marriage with hopes and dreams, one will definitely not see these prenuptial agreements valid and needed. But life is a different story and sometimes prenups can be a life saver.
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I’ve been married 30 years and my husband and I never believed in Prenuptial Agreements. Especially being Christians and not believing in divorce. Our daughter got married and her husband had an affair on her and left her for the other lady. After a very stressful year and legal battle she final got the property back that we(her parents) helped her purchase. Some of the property was purchased before the marriage. We would never recommend our kids marrying without a prenuptial. Lifes experiences can teach you hard lessons.
I see a lot more people getting prenups these days, especially women. Those with wealth, own a business, or have sizable asset holdings need to strongly consider the merits of a prenuptial agreement.
Couples should have a frank discussion on their financial situation and have an understanding so that there are no surprises. These include issues related to bills, taxes, personal property, real estate holdings, outstanding debt, and other liabilities.
You should check out the NY Times dedicated prenuptial agreements section, which has a great ongoing debate on the pros and cons of getting one. Both sides have merits.
My husband made me sign a prenup before we got married and i was to blind in love to know the pros and cons. Now it causes so much conflict. I feel worthless. He always says it’s all for our son and leaves me out of the picture. His comments are horrible. Leaving me feel worthless. IF A MAN REALLY LOVES YOU AND WANTS TO MARRY YOU DO NOT I REPEAT DO NOT SIGN A PRENUP AND IF HE WILL NOT MARRY YOU BECAUSE OF IT DO NOT MARRY HIM, HE TRULY DOES NOT LOVE YOU. that is not love. love does not come with IF’S. love is just that love mutual understanding of respect, kindness, tendernous and wanting this feeling for the rest of your lives together. A pre nup will darken that love TRUST IT HAS US. HE CAN KEEP HIS PRENUP AND SHOVE IT. I will invest my money and put it in someone else’s name one he does not know. Anyone a bestfriend is best.
Natalia I am in a loving relationship right now and I have every intention to take amazing care of my GF even put her through school. but i have baggage and I am parinaud, because i have been cheated on and she is drop dead gorgeous she gets hit on all the time.
She experiences more temptations than i do cause guys are bold and make first moves. I feel a prenup would calm my demonds knowing if shit hit the fan like her going after my “best friend is best” your words I dont have to worry.
I dont like being parinoud I dont want to fight with her about guys its unnecessary and it causes problems. I would even add into a pre nup that if i was unfaithful she would be well taken care of.
I feel the point of a Pre nup these days is to prepare for the worst and there is nothing wrong with preparing.
WHAT MATTERS IS IF THE PREN UP IS FAIR TO BOTH!!! And maintain a loving relationship till death! always trying hard to fix things even when shit hits the fan
Prepare for the worst and hope for the best…. I am shocked at the double standards our dear ladies have… First they say love is not about money…. (which i agree totally) …then on the other hand, they (am sure over 90% of them) are so much against prenuptial. If money is out of the picture of love,..then why bubble up furiously when something concerning the same money is mentioned??
Please everyone needs to wake up and deal with today’s facts and reality… Things have greatly changed and people will do anything for money…including faking love to get money,..which i believe is sweet and easy for the lazy partner as compared to working yourself hard to climb up the ladder to financial freedom.
…. poor lonely old men.
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If one or both parties believe they need a prenup, then they should not get married right away. Live together until you are both sure beyond a shadow of a doubt that it will last a life time. What’s the hurry if you really love each other. It’s all about trust and faithfulness. If one party pushes for marrage and a prenup then maybe someone is not through sewing their wild oats. Moon.
Very nice article regarding pre-nup importance. A prenup is designed to protect substantial premarital assets.
6. To prevent your spouse from overturning your estate plan. A prenuptial agreement can ensure that you estate plan works, and, for instance, ensure that a specific heirloom remains in your family.
#6 line two should read “your estate plan works,” correct?
if she don’t want to sign a prenup, she don’t loves you, she wants your money, as much as lawyers.
Any I think in the US. even with a prenup she can get a max of 65,000 us dollars. that’s not fair but that’s the law, that’s why im getting married in Dominican Republic, I think over there a prenup is a real prenup. my money and my debs are mine, and your money and your debs are yours. The only thing youll get from me if we divorced, is really good memories baby.
I am divorce and set to marry again but when i brought the subject of a prenup which she initially told me she will sign without asking her , now when i reminded her about the prenup she freaked out and said she will not sign only if i buy her a house or deposit 100k in an account so she will sign 🙂
FYI divorced first time with a beautiful boy and lost half of everything the first marriage .
What do you guys think about that any comments please.
If we already have a prenup 70% 30% split. but Iam just about to pay for a substantial extention. how would we include this investment in the prenup?
Regarding the pre-nups. I think they have their place but all possible outcomes must be examined. I definitely feel that if a wife is putting her hubby thru’ school and then down the road he is successful and making a lot of money, a pre-nup would sure come in handy if he dumped her for someone younger and prettier and tried to argue that he was the one who made all the money. I’ve seen that happen.
This is my second marriage and although I was against the prenup, I signed it anyway. I did not know I should have had an independent council review the agreement and did not completely understand what I was signing until 10 years later. The prenup is definitely one sided, basically saying what’s his is his and what’s mine is his. Had I understood this 10 years ago, I would not have signed it. Prior to signing a prenup, it is imperative for each spouse to have independent council review the agreement. I am currently in the middle of a nasty domestic violence divorce which has caused me to lose my job, see the effects the situation has on my children as well as myself as we watch the abuse only continue, but much worse. Although I believe there are some reasonings behind a prenup agreement, they are not always what they are cracked up to be. I may have lucked out, after extensive research, as there seems to be loopholes, which may nullify the agreement completely. No I am not a gold digger at all but understand what we have been through and know what needs to be done to protect my children.
It’s crazy how expensive a divorce can be when a prenuptial agreement is involved! Even if someone wants a cheap divorce, it’s crazy because they can’t get one if there is a prenup, because the spouse subject to abuses of the prenup will obviously fight it in court! It’s ridiculous! How to get around a prenup? Not an easy question! The answer should be you can’t avoid a prenup. You signed it. You’re through. Instead, divorce is not cheap, but rather, it is expensive!
Entering into a prenuptial agreement can be a hairy process. It involves constant assessment of your financial and emotional priorities while planning for “forever.” Signing a prenup also begs the question if the couple should get married in the first place, as the intention for marriage isn’t a short-term arrangement but “â€™til death do us part.”
If you do opt for a prenup, note your state laws and be sure that your concerns are addressed and advocated for in the final document.
A pre-nup is just like having a life insurance policy.
Just sign it.
If you really love him you won’t care .
It does not mean you don’t intend to get married.
Does taking out life insurance mean you intend to commit suicide ?
Get a life people.
If you don’t want to sign it, it is because you are malicious and have ulterior motives.
My father had two nasty divorces. Reality makes you realise that you can never predict the future or how people will behave when a marriage goes sour.
E.g my mother stole things from my father that he brought into the marriage from this father.
Unfortunately some people can get nasty when a marriage ends.
Stop over analysing it. If you really love the person, the fact that you have a pre-nup wouldn’t even matter. So just sign the damn thing.
If prenups were promoted like the first two paragraphs then they would be wildly popular. One instance in law where the individuals get to ‘make the rules’. Why accept the generic default your family isn’t a generic default.
Licensed marriage is a legal contract that exists to compensate couples to conceive and raise those children.
Without the conception part it is just the government paying couples, through tax incentives/deductions, to have sex for fun. Which makes conception-less marriages something akin to government supported prostitution.
You can decide to be married, without license, anytime you want. There is no law against it.
And like the article is saying you can divorce anytime on your own predetermined terms without the need to adhere to the governmental defaults.
Hello, this article was very helpful , Thank you! I’m divorced single mother. Moved from Russia to USA and got marriage, seven years later walked away from unhealthy marriage with only my clothes and my kid…. no child support or spouse support . Started building my life all over, bought the house , have being putting money to saving account . I make more then middle class person, now I have being dating same guy for over 3 years and we got engaged. He is 11 years older, has growing up kids, grandkids , more wealthy then me . He wants me to get prenup, sell my house and move with him, to his house. But his house after his death would go to his kids and grandkids, that would leave me nowher. I
I have to start all over and first time I could do it , but second time it’s can be hard, less energy and motivation. I’m freaking out about this situation, and I don’t think if he would truly loved me he would put me through all those sacrifices , knowing my past.
Thanks for suggesting that we get a prenup if we’re marrying someone with a high amount of debt, since without a prenup we may end up financially responsible if the marriage ends. My sister recently got engaged, and her fiance has a tremendous amount of credit card debt. He’s a great guy and I hope it works out for them, but I’ll recommend she get a prenup just in case!
First put your assets into a comprehensive trust. Then list the trust in the prenup.
A Gold Digger wants every man to believe she is head over heals in love while she is eying his assets. My two ex-wife’s BOTH tried to get the judge to award 50% of my VA Disability Check to the. Sorry hunny, Federal law says you don’t get a dime, but the point is, they tried.
Another reason a WOMAN wants a man to sign a Pre-Nump, is because as soon as a STUD comes along with a wallet of credit cards, a nice car and a house, that HUSBAND is out on his ASS and the hot stud is in her bed.
“You are much poorer than your partner. Just as a prenuptial agreement can be used to protect a spouse who is well off, a prenup can also be used to ensure that the partner who is weaker financially is protected.”
This is exactly why women marry men they don’t love but see the material things and money they can get a JUDGE to award them down the road.
Interesting to see the comments from women condemning a prenup, swearing up and down that it should be “all about love”. They’re not being honest. They know damn well that if they get divorced, they will demand MONEY.
Interesting so many women here talking against this, LOL… Hey guys, YOU should have a problem with THEM having a problem with a prenup.