To the bride and groom, marriage is a loving contract between two people who want to spend the rest of their lives together. In the eyes of the law, marriage is also a contract between two people … not about love, but about a variety of financial rights and obligations.
It’s hard to talk about marriage as if it were “business,” but when it comes to creating a prenuptial agreement, that’s exactly the approach you should take. A prenuptial agreement isn’t a well-planned “exit strategy” or evidence of a lack of faith in the relationship. It is simply protection against an unlikely and unforeseen “what if” circumstance … an important “insurance policy” on the legal issues of the marriage contract.
The strategies below are intended to help you easily and painlessly convince your husband- or wife-to-be that a prenuptial agreement is in his/her interest as well as yours.
Discuss the Topic Early
Don’t wait until a week before your wedding to discuss a prenuptial agreement with your intended. Explore the topic early in a relationship, if possible, resolve the issue before you become engaged.
Ask, Don’t Assume
People have all kinds of notions about prenuptial agreements, many of them unfairly colored by the media’s reporting of highly publicized, and often bitter, divorce proceedings. Don’t assume that you and your spouse-to-be are on the same page with this topic; ask.
A Topic for the Head Not the Heart
It’s tough to talk about your loving, committed relationship as if it were a business arrangement. If you and your intended can agree to be logical (rather than emotional) about the preparation of a prenup, you’ll find it much easier.
Ask A Third Party
If your spouse-to-be is hesitant in any way, suggest that he/she consult with a legal professional to explore the benefits.
Tip: You may find it valuable to consult with a legal professional to understand the different kinds of issues that might be covered in a prenup. The better informed you are, the easier it will be for you to explain things to your intended.