Myth #1 – Prenuptial agreements are only for the wealthy. No. Prenuptial agreements are for ordinary people. Given the high legal fees and stress involved in a divorce, the frequency with which relationships end nowadays, as well as peoples’ increasing financial sophistication and independence, a prenuptial agreement can benefit just about everyone.
Myth #2 – Prenuptial agreements are only useful if your relationship breaks down. No. Prenuptial agreements can be useful estate planning tools. Without a prenup, your spouse may be able to invalidate your carefully thought out estate plan. A prenup can be especially helpful if you have children from a previous marriage or have family heirlooms that you want to keep in the family.
Myth #3 – Prenuptial agreements are unromantic. No. Being able to sit down and discuss with your partner both of your future financial plans and expectations for the relationship will lead to a more solid foundation for your relationship than simply expecting your love to take care of everything.
Myth #4 – Prenuptial agreements won’t be upheld by the courts. No. Although courts occasionally do invalidate prenups, these are normally ones prepared without the help of attorneys, or ones where there was coercion in getting one partner’s signature. If you have a properly drafted prenup, and there was no duress, it is likely that your prenuptial agreement will stand up in court.
Myth #5 – Only men want prenuptial agreements. No. Prenuptial agreements are a useful way of setting out your and your partner’s expectations for the relationship. There’s no need for a prenup to be biased in either partner’s favor. For instance, a woman may insist that if she is going to stay home and raise children, that her prenuptial agreement include provisions to compensate her for this interruption in her career through spousal support.
Myth #6 – Prenuptial agreements are expensive. No. Compared to the cost of an average wedding or an average divorce, prenuptial agreement are a bargain. The best way to think about it is like buying insurance: it’s a small one-time cost for something you never hope to use, but if you ever need it, you’ll be glad you have it, and it will save you a lot of money.
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Any person who gets married without a prenuptial agreement is a fool!!!! Getting married is signing a contract, why not tweak it up so its more fair for each party! Remember life can head in many different ways don’t be a fool!
-Joe Laney
Those things suck!! work it out with your spouse and be happy
So that’s all myth?
wow so nice to know that…
Actually i have not married,, but in a few day i want to thinking about married with my girl, em… let’s make prenuptial agreement…. Hahaha
Thank you for the myth buster 3 and 4.
Myth #3 – Prenuptial agreements are unromantic.
Myth #4 – Prenuptial agreements won’t be upheld by the courts.
The explanation of these particular myths helped me understand that when my partner and I can talk about the hard things, then everything else is ‘a peice of cake’. Our relationship grew stronger when we talked about a “pre-nup”.
Maui, you deserve nothing more than a life free from him. His money is his money. His property is his property. Prenups are put in place to protect both parties from the greed and avarice of spouses who feel they’ve been wronged–even if they have been. Your marriage wasn’t about money. It was about love. That’s what your divorce should be about, too.
Quite helpfull. Lawyers, kids, and other blood suckers ready to pounce on a well meaning contract between husband and wife.
Everyone sees “prenup” and thinks divorce and marriage failure. The thing that is an absolute, in my opinion, is that if one of both of the people have a previous marraige with childern there must be a prenup for estate planning purposes. In this type of prenup you can leave the “what happens “if” we divorce” out tottaly. It is for the benifit of one or both previous families and is set up for “what happens when we “do” die”. Do you really want state laws to possibly disiherit your children or your to be spouses childern. Do you really want the courts to determine who gets what, we write wills for that. And if there is not a prenup for “what happens when we “do” die” state laws may preempt what you want your will to do.
Even if you are deeply in love and believe you don’t need the “what happens “if” we divorce” prenup, I see no emotional liablity in discussing the “what happens when we “do” die” prenup. It is a total no brainer and lets your potential spouse know that not only do you care about them you care about your childern and their children.
Prenuptial agreements are worthless (in Texas) for the man if there is a woman judge presiding over the divorce. Women judges will always screw the man no matter how good he is.
right on doug. you definitely know what you’re talking about! Fuck the female judges.
Yeah, those that bear children always have some sort of greed at mind! Fucking females!
I’d like to know why Robbie, a man who obviously hates women because he is envious of their ability to bear children, is looking at a site that implies that he intends to get married. He sounds like a self-centered, greedy loser to me. Do women a favor, Robbie. Stay single.
Ask Tiger Woods…$750 Million
Prenuptial gives me pressure..I didn’t want it..it said it’s not about trusting but “IT IS”it’s about uncertainty feelings of the relationship.Why not just be happy and “WHAT IF” happens just accept it.People who wants prenuptial is just scared that they might loose what they have been save..IT’s really about not trusting..
Good advice. I saw a joke the other day that said, “Marriage, betting half your stuff that you can love the other person forever!” funny but, without a prenup it’s generally true.
Good advice. I saw a joke the other day that said, “Marriage, betting half your stuff that you can love the other person forever!” funny but, without a prenup it’s generally true.
…and the other person will love you the rest of your life.
Can a person’s Will change the distribution of that same person’s assets that were setup in a legal prenup ?
Would you own a home without home owners insurance? Would you own a car without car insurance? Well this is marriage insurance.
If you trust one another and never plan on divorcing then great. The prenup will never be used so signing one shouldn’t be an issue
And I disagree with the idea its about trust and uncertain feelings. You can trust your partner 100% and be 100% certain. That doesn’t mean they feel the same or will feel the same 10 years from now. Shyt happens. If you don’t believe it turn on the news.
I signed a prenuptual agreement with my husband a very very wealthy man I don’t have any interest in his millions but since I moved into his home which by the way was his ex wife’s home and two girl friends before. I am a wonderful wife who didn’t need a man for money. I have asked that he include me on title to just the house (there are two more). Only to make me feeling like we have something together(to old for kids). He said never my feelings are hurt He is willing the house to me if he dies but not willing to share it with me when he is alive.
I think pre-nups end up being self fulfilling prophesies. If you think there is an easy way out of the marriage, then you don’t have as much of a reason to work on keeping the relationship alive. My boyfriend asked if I would ever be willing to sign a prenup and I lost it. Does he not trust me at all? I just want to cry because it makes me feel like I’m a gold digging whore. I would be willing to share my life with him and all he cares about is money? Is nothing sacred anymore, or have we all just fallen prey to greed and selfishness?
Marriage is not a contract, its a scam. Take it from somebody who knows and has been there. Marriage is just another gold digger scam where Feminists use the church to do their dirty work. Think of it as the VIP room sponsored by your local church.(And a lot more profitable for your local divorce industry lawyers) Get a prenup and realize that
as a man you will be a victim in court, even the best prenup cant save you, but its better than nothing.
When deciding to marry you must Trust. Signing a prenup says you dont. Prenups are contracts that state you’re thinking neg and predicting the marraige will fail and a prenup is to prove it. ppl think its the easy way out BUt, Little do you know theirs no easy way out in divorce. call me old fashioned. couples can make agreements when divorcing instead.
My sister made her 21yo son have a prenuptial with what turned out to be his Gold digging girlfriend ,boy was he lucky. She tried to take his House. No luck
I was completely against the pre-nup but after reading so many truths rather than myths about it? I feel confident that I would want one for myself and children entering into a marriage. Thanks!
I have a question. Lets say that your dad remarries has a pre nup and after 6 months of marriage he passes away. The new wife wants to take something that is not hers based on the pre nup where does he children stand law wise?
Hi, my name is Kyle.
just recently it occured to me that the money my dad has been saving for me by putting equity into his home and do the right thing with his money and not splurging for his own sake, could potentially be up for grabs. I feel i have the right intentions for wanting a prenup and a marriage. Seems the two for many people contradict… Females are somewhat unpredictable through my experiances.. She loves me i love her, however family money is my families money. her familys money is her families money.. our money is hers and my money… the money that we achieve together.. a deserving relationship is one where the ability of those involved contribute to the rewards you share. Does anyone know devorce laws of ontario if you live in alberta and someone in your family may pass away in the next few years but your looking to start your family now?? i want to know about inheiritence. in such a case..
Wow. All these people so against a prenup. I want one and will not marry my man without one. He wants one too. Neither of us are rich, by any means. However, he has a 2 year old from a previous marriage, whose mother would not be able to resist the urge to come after my income for child support once he and I marry. A prenup will protect my income from this. I do not want to pay her rent and utilities for the next 20 years. Anything his daughter wants or needs, we will provide for her. A prenup protects him in the assets he wants to leave to his daughter should something happen to him. Without this in the prenup, regardless of a legal will, those wishes could be overturned by a court and what he wanted for his daughter will go to me. It protects both of us. And in neither of these instances are we thinking about divorce. One of these two scenarios will happen one day, there is no denying that (the exception being he outlives me). This isn’t us assuming we will end up in divorce court; it’s protecting ourselves from the inevitable. And I, for one, would never get married to someone who couldn’t discuss all the financial aspects of a prenup with me. That’s just stupid (and in itself, a recipe for divorce).
I’m not against a prenup. My mom owns land, has bank account, and and owns a beautiful expensive home. She married a man without a prenup. This man has grown children and grown grandkids . Now they are not getting along and she wants out of the marriage. well guess what he has done his homework he knows he can get 1/3 or 1/2 of whatever she has and he is going for it!!! Why give a man or a woman things that don’t belong to them. Prenups are protection from when the marriage does go wrong. Protects your loved one you leave behind. Without a prenup you leave your possessions for someone else to enjoy. With that said hurray for prenups!!
“…I, for one, would never get married to someone who couldn’t discuss all the financial aspects of a prenup with me. That’s just stupid (and in itself, a recipe for divorce).”
Well said, M!! In my opinion those who are against these pre-nups are being really defensive. If you’re secure in your financial relationship, there should be no problem putting it in writing! It’s an insurance policy. Has no one here ever had a CRAZY EX? I’m not even talking about married exes. I mean that people do crazy things when emotions run high. Anyone who’s been majorly heartbroken or broken someone else’s heart can attest to the fact that it can make you feel NUTS; later you might be appalled at your own actions, once you’ve come back to a normal, healthy place. I don’t believe that my fiancé or I will ever turn into monsters if one day we split up, but I’d rather we reach an agreement now, while things are good and we are in our rational states, doing it out of love and respect for our future marriage.
“…I, for one, would never get married to someone who couldn’t discuss all the financial aspects of a prenup with me. That’s just stupid (and in itself, a recipe for divorce).”
Well said, M!! In my opinion those who are against these pre-nups are being really defensive. If you’re secure in your financial relationship, there should be no problem putting it in writing! It’s an insurance policy. Has no one here ever had a CRAZY EX? People do crazy things when emotions run high. Anyone who’s been majorly heartbroken or broken someone else’s heart can attest to the fact that it can make you feel NUTS; later you might be appalled at your own actions, once you’ve come back to a normal, healthy place. I don’t believe that my fiancé or I will ever turn into monsters if one day we split up, but I’d rather we reach an agreement now, while things are good and we are in our rational states, doing it out of love and respect for our future marriage.
Can anyone recommend a good lawyer in Northern Kentucky for a pre nup . Thanks
Thank you for sharing this info. It’s indeed very useful.
I’am afree with the prenuptial agrements, it’s a better way to safe your assets, and also if you have children.
After this I think that I`ll need a prenup, just in case of divorce or maybe a better idea is just not to get married
Is true a prenuptial agreement is necesary for the financial things, for the children, also is cero romantic and help you to be more organized.
I think It’s important hava one but the thing is that you should use it in case of divorce and no include something like what time you got to bed. so include money is important because of children and who will be taking care of them.
the 6 Myths all of them are the first thing that you think when you accept or agree with your date, for me prenuptial agreement is the way that you keep all the promise that you did or do while the dating, it’s not romantic for me but to other people or couples yes, financial is important but you need to be carefully
“Myth #3 – Prenuptial agreements are unromantic. No. Being able to sit down and discuss with your partner both of your future financial plans and expectations for the relationship will lead to a more solid foundation for your relationship than simply expecting your love to take care of everything.”
A woman may say about prenuptials that getting married is about love, not money. A man has every right to come back with: Are you marrying me because you love me or is it about the money? MSH
For anyone not wanting a prenuptial because they say it’s being negative and we must not think about divorce while getting married, I say this: Almost all divorces are by couples that don’t have a prenuptial. Prenuptials don’t cause divorce. However, refusing to discuss and negotiate a prenuptial is a very good indication to not get married.
Agree that these are most common myths associated with Prenuptial agreement and its good that you clarify all these here through this post which will surely going to help many peoples
Facing a divorce from a narcissist who was, indeed, pre-planning divorce has shown me the ugly side of prenups. I was a young woman truly in love, desiring to spend a life with a man who had four sons and an ex-wife to support. I knew nothing about prenups. He claimed he wanted to spend his life with me, the prenup would never come into play because we were going to grow old together, etc. Then, after we married, I saw the real man who was intimidating, controlling, verbally and emotionally abusive and a pathological liar. He treated me like he loved me BEFORE the marriage, got me to sign a prenup, then showed his true colors. It’s not my first marriage, and I am a woman of faith, so he knew it would be incredibly difficult for me to walk away. After 18 long painful years, I have done just that; but facing the prenup battle just makes it so much worse. He got me in a vulnerable place and took advantage of me, and I bet an awful lot of other men are doing the same thing. Marriage is based on trust. I don’t care how many children you have with another spouse. Handle it through revocable trusts, wills, etc. DON’T go the prenup route unless you want a spouse with a noose around their neck, always feeling like they have to “walk on eggshells” in order to keep you happy so you don’t divorce them. It’s an awful way to live. I would NEVER sign one again.