Comments on: What Can & Can’t Be In A Prenuptial Agreement

By: cpbuttercup

cpbuttercup — Tue, 24 Jan 2012 18:28:18 +0000

Cherrypie, I would make him put you on his insurance ASAP. I would even call the lawyer who drew up your prenup and let him know that he never did that but it was written in the prenup and make sure it’s still valid. Believe me I understand exactly what you mean about protecting yourself. DO IT NOW. DO NOT WAIT. KEEP ON HIM until he does it. It doesn’t matter how much much money he gives you now to provide your needs, how’s he going to provide for your needs after he dies if he doesn’t get those insurance papers signed. You signed those prenup papers for him like he asked, the least he can do is take care of those insurance papers for you so he know you’ll be taken care of if something happens to him (which I pray WILL NOT happen for many many years) I signed a prenup against everything I believed in, but I did it anyway and my husband was suppose to have a Will made to ensure I was taken care of in the event of his death or everything goes to his heirs. (family members) He hasn’t done it yet, I am resentful, I am angry, I don’t hound him everyday but I do remind him frequently. Although I am on all of his insurance papers, etc. But those insurance papers are easy enough to sign. A Will takes more planning. If anyone is concerned about a prenup here are a couple things we put in ours that I would not sign unless they were put in there. I know with every fiber of my being my husband would never cheat on me or me on him but if either one of us had an affair the prenup becomes null and viod. This was just to piss him off. He didn’t like it but I told him I was adding things I wanted so deal with it. (I know I think what you want, but I was really pissed about this whole thing, and yes you can say he was just protecting himself, but he’s not made of gold, he doesn’t have an inheritance, and I am not in debt, his reasons for a prenup were more for ego and stubbornness) The other thing was the prenup becomes null and void after 10yrs of marriage. Then what was his before we married is mine and what was mine before is his. You can put whatever time limit you want. NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER sign a prenup with out having an attorney go over it with you. NEVER NEVER NEVER use the same attorney your b.f or g.f. is using. Go through each section one at a time, make notes on one copy with your attorney, add things, change things, take out things. Then go home, talk about it, compromise, go back to the attorney go over it again. You make sure you are comfortable with it before you sign anything. Remember you are the one that’s being asked to sign this agreement, you will regret it if you go along with something you are not comfortable with that is written or not written in there. You will be resentful and angry at him/her and yourself if you sign and don’t feel good about it. They need to understand this because they love you just like they expect you to understand signing the prenup. Oh and one more thing, get a Will done right away. I understand that the whole point of a prenup is so that you don’t end up with the family treasures but you are the spouse and the person he/she is in love with, you should get something and if there’s no Will stating it, you will get NOTHING, it will all go the heirs. I don’t think you can state things like that in a prenup, it’s Estate planning and that’s more a Will thing. I am fighting the battle right now, it’s not fun, trust me. A spouse is not an heir. Good luck to everyone, I hope I was some help.

By: cherrypie

cherrypie — Fri, 20 Jan 2012 19:03:14 +0000

hi,i got married last august 2011 and we sign a prenup, and stated at one page that i am entitled of $100,000 of his dead insurance ( knock on wood) but than i found out that till today my husband did not include me yet as his one of benificiary on his insurance and i am confuse. I am just protecting my future as no one knows wat will happen .ok my question is, if anything happen like he pass away and im not in his insurance beneficiary but i have our prenup stated that i am entitled for his dead insurance do i have a right ??I am from philippines and i gave up my job for our love and he dont allow me to work here in the US so i am a full time house wife, we sign a pre nup stating that i get paid $5000 a year prior the day of our marriege which is i dont mind as he’s providing me my everyday needs,

By: Bluebell

Bluebell — Fri, 23 Dec 2011 00:48:42 +0000

Ontario: I’m going to marry soon a Canadian ..and move there from Europe but I know him for 7month already. I’m going to be full-time house wife,no children ,no income, and I don’t know his previous life,if he has debts or other responsibilities. What should I do to protect myself ,be safe and avoid unpleasant situations which can occur in any case?
Thanx for your advice

By: Modimgre

Modimgre — Tue, 20 Dec 2011 00:45:30 +0000

Chicago,IL. 6 yrs Full time house wife no child no income . What will happen if the is a divorce?

By: May

May — Mon, 12 Dec 2011 05:07:47 +0000

Hi just a quick help.. I’m Filipino and my bf owns a house here in b.c. He wants me to sign for prenup… Well I don’t have plan to marry him.. I really don’t want to if prenup is gonna be in my face. I don’t have any asset here but I have back home.. I’m pregnant to his baby and his parents wants us to buy a new house under our both names., What should I do plss help .. Tnx may